I had wild sex on the back stairs of a hotel in Ibiza and now my daughter’s disgusted in me – The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: I HAD wild sex with what I thought was a really fun guy who was all over me. When I sobered up I realised what a letch he was.

I’m horrified. I’m 43 and got divorced three years ago after my husband cheated on me with two women.

When I was invited to a hen party in Ibiza, I jumped at it. There were 12 of us, aged 20 to 47, including my daughter, who is 22. On our first evening we hit the hotel bar and, as always, I really went for it, downing the sangria and then shots.

The others were egging me on as I’m usually the life and soul of the party. This guy started laughing and joking with me, and then buying me drinks. He must have been about 30, but I’m told I look great for my age and I love hanging out with young people.

I really went OTT that night. I ended up having sex with this guy in the hotel grounds — we couldn’t go to my room as I was sharing with my daughter. I staggered back there in the small hours shaking the sand from my clothes.

The next day I felt hungover and embarrassed and promised myself that I would behave better that evening. But, as soon as I got a drink inside me, I was raring to go again.

The same guy made a beeline for me and I loved all the attention he gave me. We ended up having sex again on the back stairs of the hotel.

In the morning I could see my daughter had been crying. It made me feel awful. I know I am just another notch on that guy’s bedpost. He is the sort who spends all his time chatting up women.

The next day we flew home but I think all my friends are laughing at me behind my back. Worst of all, my daughter must be disgusted with me, though she’s said nothing.

What is wrong with me? It’s as if I can’t help myself. I seem to repeat the same pattern again and again with different guys and cannot seem to keep a bloke.

DEIDRE SAYS: Your husband cheat­ing on you with two other women was a real blow to your self-esteem.  With a few drinks inside you it is too easy to be tempted to go for the instant ego boost of someone fancying you there and then.

The trouble is the guys then assume that being bedded is all you’re after. They take you at your own valuation. Alcohol is playing a major role in all this, too, so stop drinking at least for a month or two, while you reassess.

Tell your daughter you’re turning over a new leaf. Build a social life that doesn’t revolve around bars and booze.

Make some sober friends with whom you share other interests and one of them may turn into someone more special and lasting.

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