I want to move away with my son but I'm worried I'll upset my family

DEAR DEIDRE: I KNOW moving out of our dead-end town would be good for me and my son, but it’s a big step. I’m scared I’ll distance myself from my family and friends.

What if the fantasy I’ve dreamed up is way better than the reality?


For more advice from Dear Deidre

No issue is too small, too large or too embarrassing. Read our personal replies here.

  • Dear Deidre on Mental Health
  • Dear Deidre on Identity  
  • Dear Deidre on Debt and Money 
  • Dear Deidre on Work
  • Dear Deidre on Health and Wellbeing 
  • Dear Deidre on Addiction

I’m a woman of 42 and my son’s 12. I’ve lived in the same town all my life. When I got married, I moved a whole ten minutes down the road.

I’ve never disliked it here but since my husband left two years ago, I’ve felt restless. I’d love to move to a city where there’s work and more for my son.

But I don’t want to hurt my friends or family. I know my parents would hate not seeing us both every weekend.

Plus my best friend just had a baby. Popping over for a cup of tea would be a thing of the past.

Most read in Dear Deidre

DEIDRE'S STORIES

Lily plans Sadie's birthday party – but ends up flirting with her brother

DEAR DEIDRE

I had sex in the toilets with my work colleague but now he won't speak to me

GOOD GRIEF

My girlfriend stopped having sex with me after her mum died

STOP MOANING

I hate hearing my ex-boyfriend masturbate every night

DEIDRE SAYS: You have to do what is best for you and your son.

Once your family sees how content you are in the city, I’m sure they’ll be happy for you. Plus it gives you all an excuse to explore the city together when they come to visit.

You are right, though. This will be a big change.

You and your son should have a weekend in the city to start getting a feel for life there.

Try out the public transport, identify which areas you would like to live in and work out where all your local services would be.

NEXT IN TODAY'S DEAR DEIDRE I'm wondering if I should leave my husband after I caught him watching porn

READ DEIDRE'S STORIES Lily plans Sadie’s birthday party – but ends up flirting with her brother

GET IN TOUCH How the page works and how to contact us

    Source: Read Full Article