My wife suddenly cares about her appearance - is she cheating?

DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife has started getting her hair and nails done every two weeks. She must be seeing someone else. What else could it be?

We are both 38 and have been married for ten years. We have two young boys.

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My mother-in-law died suddenly two years ago and I supported my wife through it.

She became very distant, but I figured she was grieving so I didn’t push it.

Since she went back to work two months ago, though, something’s changed.

She won’t let the boys touch her phone and yet they used to be allowed to play with it. She changed the pin number on it and it’s with her 24/7.

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She’s been changing the way she looks – buying younger clothing – and she’s always at the beauty salon.

She doesn’t come near any more.

DEIDRE SAYS: Second-guessing her every move is making you miserable.

Find a moment when the children aren’t around and tell her you’re worried your relationship has changed.

Ask her what you can do to improve things between you.

If you can’t make it work, maybe contact tavistockrelationships.org (020 7380 1975), who provide couples’ counselling online.

My wife suddenly cares about her appearance – is she cheating?