Single woman, 38, reveals her horror at being REJECTED by a matchmaker who said she was too ‘high strung’ and needed to become ‘softer’ to be ‘worthy of love’ – after she paid $350 for a consultation

• Danielle Fewings vented about the unnamed matchmaker on TikTok
• She recalled telling her she was ‘Type A’ and not interested in a ‘beta type’
• Fewings said the expert implied she needed to change to be ‘worthy of love’

A single woman has revealed that she was rejected by a matchmaker who implied that she was too ‘high strung’ and needed to change to be ‘worthy of love.’ 

Danielle Fewings, 38, a digital marketing specialist from Philadelphia, went viral on TikTok after venting about her fruitless consultation with the unnamed dating expert.

‘When we met, I told her what I was looking for and told her a lot about me,’ she explained as she did her makeup in the video. 

‘I tried to highlight some of my core qualities, including the fact that I am very, very Type A, organized, [and] I like to be the leader.

Danielle Fewings, 38, from Philadelphia, went viral on TikTok after revealing a matchmaker rejected her during her $350 consultation 

The digital marketing specialist recalled how she told the expert that she was ‘Type A’ and not interested in dating a ‘beta type’ of man 

‘I told her the types of things I like doing. I also told her I was looking for a man who was also a leader because I don’t want to always be the leader, believe it or not.’

Fewings said she wanted a partner who was at or above her income level, driven, ambitious, and ready to get married. 

She admitted that the matchmaker might have picked up on the fact that she was a ‘little high strung,’ but she insisted she was not a ‘stressed out or anxious person.’

‘I’m just high energy, Type A. This is who I am,’ she said. ‘She was asking me: “Do I meditate?” No. “Do I journal?” No. “Do anything woo?” and I said, “No, in fact, I’m not even on the same planet as woo.”‘

When asked what she didn’t like in a man, she told the expert that she ‘could never really be with a beta type.’ 

‘I specifically used the word “doormat.” I said I would chew them up and spit them out,’ she recalled. ‘And her response was “well, I married that type of man.” 

‘She was saying that men really like a soft woman, and I should try some of these vision boarding, journaling, meditating type of things. [But] I’m never going to be that type of person.’

Fewings also shared how the matchmaker told her she had ‘some walls up,’ but she felt it was ‘perfectly normal’ for her to be guarded when meeting someone for the first time.

She noted that she was considering paying the woman ‘several thousand dollars’ to find her future husband and wanted to know if she was going to get her ‘money’s worth.’

Rejected by a matchmaker. I guess dating is just that hopeless in 2023. Maybe dating wont suck in 2024. #matchmaking #matchmakingtiktok #toxicdating #toxicdatingadvice #datinginyour30s #datingover30

Fewings said the matchmaker told her she was not ‘ready for her type of services’ because she has ‘too much work to do’ on herself 

Fewings was frustrated that she paid $350 to be told that she ‘needs to change in order to be worthy of love and partnership’

‘So, of course, I’m going to have some walls up,’ she argued. 

Fewings added that the matchmaker ‘had not taken the time’ to research her by ‘stalking [her] on the internet.’  

‘I asked her if she thought I would be ready for her services. Her response? She essentially said that I am not ready for her type of services because I have too much work to do [on myself],’ she explained. 

‘My walls are too high, and I’m not ready for a long-term committed relationship at the ripe age of 38, [when] I have been in therapy for 10 plus years. 

‘She also said that she’s “too woo” for me, which I can accept that. That’s fine. However, I shouldn’t need to be a woo type person to be worthy of love.’

Although the matchmaker was unwilling to take her on as a client, she did advise her to ‘soften a little bit’ because ‘men like softer women.’  

Fewings was frustrated that she paid $350 to be told that she ‘needs to change in order to be worthy of love and partnership.’  

‘I think for that reason alone, she should have her matchmaking license taken way,’ she griped. ‘Because we shouldn’t be pushing these narratives that people are not worthy as they are.’

After finishing her makeup, she explained that she was going to forget about what the matchmaker told her while celebrating her 38th birthday that night. 

‘We are gonna believe that no matter the type of woman you are, love is out there for you. We are not gonna listen to this toxic narrative,’ she concluded. 

Fewings’ video has received more than 15,000 comments, and many people agreed with the matchmaker, insisting that the expert never said she was ‘not worthy of love’ 

‘Rejected by a matchmaker. I guess dating is just that hopeless in 2023,’ she added in the caption. ‘Maybe dating won’t suck in 2024…’

Fewings’ video has been viewed 2.1 million times and has received more than 15,000 comments since it was posted on December 4. 

However, many people agreed with the matchmaker and suggested she heed her advice instead of slamming her assessment. 

‘Therapist here, everyone is worthy of love but not everyone is ready… some walls need to come down to let someone get to know you,’ one person responded. 

‘Love IS out there for everyone, but it absolutely starts with yourself — seems like the matchmaker was right and there is inner work you need to do,’ another added. 

‘She’s trying to tell you: The man you’re looking for isn’t looking for you. Alpha men want support, not competition,’ someone else shared. 

Others pointed out that the matchmaker never said she wasn’t ‘worthy of love.’ 

‘She didn’t say you weren’t worthy. She said you weren’t READY,’ one viewer clarified.

‘She’s just said she wasn’t the right matchmaker for YOU. It doesn’t mean you aren’t worthy,’ someone else agreed. 

‘I think she’s just saying she’s not the right matchmaker for you. I don’t think she meant you’re not worthy. I would appreciate her not wasting my [money],’ someone else added. 

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